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Me time – the moment I can’t keep my eyes open but still scrolling down.

After a long day, shopping, cooking, feeding, changing, nursing or what not. My little girl gone to sleep. I can’t keep my eyes open and need to change to my pajamas, brush my teeth and drink some water.  But here I am, scrolling down my phone. Being nosy on instagram.

It’s been 10 months now. I have been doing this. Not same thing all the time but this me time is a very special time for my sanity. I don’t want to get up from bed and just want to sleep like the way I am. But what is this telling me to get up and wash my face and brush my teeth and change??

Sometime i think what a great life babies have. They fed, changed, sleep and entertained. When I put my daughter to sleep, she takes good 30 minutes to drift off. If I am offered by this opportunity I will grab it in a second.  Now, I just closed my eyes and went in my dream seeing the stupidest things one can imagine.  Time to get up…

If you are in the same boat tell me what do you do in your “me time”.

 

 

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Catching up with my blog

It’s been really really long that I have not written anything.

I am not a professional blogger and I don’t write to earn. Blogging just gives me a way to express myself  and keep the moments and experience locked in words where I can come and read whenever I want. 

I checked my stats and views from last week and I’m quite suprised to know, with this little content my blog has been viewed regularly. Thanks a lot for all of those who are reading.

My baby girl is 9.5 months now. Growing and learning  very quickly.  Life is so beautiful with her and I can’t keep my eyes off her. I’m truly blessed alhumdulillah.

Our weaning journey is also going pretty good. But she still doesn’t have any teeth yet.  So madam been bit moody sometimes because of her swollen gums.

Life is going like a roller coaster. Sometimes I can’t get hold of it and I think I am missing out on a lot of things. Having baby is a full time job. Sometimes you don’t even get a break.newd some motivation to write again

Hope will get really good stuff to write about in coming days .

Love you all .

 

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What I learned being a first time mum

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  1. To be very alert in sleep.
  2. Putting my little girl first in everything.
  3. The value of routine in life.
  4. Making different types of baby food.
  5. No procrastination.
  6. Clean on the go.
  7. No late night gatherings
  8. Staying in a budget.
  9. Pinning every single blog post about parenting.
  10. 101 ways to entertain my daughter.
  11. Singing nursery rhymes.
  12. Home remedies to cure any illness.
  13. Controlling my anger.
  14. No matter how much I disagree with any other mother’s parenting, I just keep my mouth shut for her respect.
  15. Loving unconditionally.
  16. Understanding the fact that I’m not perfect.
  17. Learning  with every mistake.
  18. To know what my baby needs by her each cry.
  19. Praying for her before I pray for myself.
  20. Laughing and giggling with her even when I am sad.
  21. Getting happy to buy her clothes and shoes before I buy anything for myself.
  22. Learned the fact that Allah loves us more than 70 mothers. I know how much I love her. What would be the level of that love he has for us.
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stop leaving skid marks ! (poo talk)

Caution; this post is going to be completely rude and you will find a lot of poop talks.

This is for those who don’t even care about what they leave behind for others to see.

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Everytime I go to the public toilets, those people who are really confident to show their poop always drive me crazy. I mean why the heck ?

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Well toddler need potty training.  Shall I ask government to design adult potty training as well?

When I got married and start living with my husband. The first shock I had was when I saw his toilet. I was like

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That was the first time I realised that marriage is about cleaning shit as well. A reminder for all of those girls who are going to be married soon. Your husband is going to fart in the same blanket as well.  So prepare your mind for all that business.

Some people think that I have OCD. They told me toilets are all about smell, pee and poo. I dont really think so. Actually, if keeping the toilet clean and sparkling comes under ocd than yes I have ocd.

On a serious note, it’s really not nice when you go toilet and see that stuff. For a person like me would never tolerate that.  If someone leave skid marks in the toilet and I see them leaving confidently. I just have a really dirty image of them in my mind. It spreads diseases as well. So please keep it clean.

There’s how you can deal with the situation .

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My hijab story..

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So many people think particularly same way about hijabees and niqabees. Like she must be oppressed or she must be under pressure of some man. When I travel by train I usually can see few eyes scanning me with disgust. Some of the people often get up from the seat beside me. Here I’m not talking about everyone. There are so many good and wise people out there as well. But generally,  it happens.

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I’m a hijabi and I want to tell my story. First of all, I’m not under pressure. Nobody ask me to do it.  I started doing it 4 years back. I was a normal teenager girl. I used to straighten up my hair everyday or make style. I used to wear skinny jeans and fitted tops. A good one hour in the morning I used to spend just on my appearance.

When I met my husband, I figured it out straight away that I’m not his type. He is a very religious man. We had an arranged marriage.  I was holding back but inside I was thinking I saw a lot of people before . I should give myself chance to get closer to Allah and choose my partner on the basis of religion.  So I decided to know him more.

When I talked to him I knew straight away that he is the one.  The way he talked to me the way he explain. The way he tell me about good things was just unbelievable.  So without wasting any time we went straight to tie the knots. He never asked me to wear hijab. But I know he gets annoyed with every glance at me by other men.

When I used to walk with him I had a feeling that I don’t match with the way he is.  He is so confident and being born in UK, he is so close to Allah.  I used to think what’s wrong with me. I born in muslim country and I couldn’t follow or be the way i should be.

Anyway, one day I was on YouTube and link to link ingot onto the hijab tutorial video. It was dina Tokio. So I pulled one of my scarf from my drawer and tried it on. There he saw me and said, ” you never looked this beautiful before” . He hugged me and didn’t say anything.

There I decided to wear it. The more I kept on wearing, the more I loved it. The challenging part was to wear it at work.  But I did. All of my colleagues was like. Do you really have to do it?  I think your husband is so strict on you… how can you keep this on whole day? The best one was. . Are you going to sleep with this on?? But with all these stupid questions, I never felt myself like that in my life before. I felt protected. I felt like a woman.

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This was my story and I’m still wearing it. I wear long gown as well now.

On the final note, I’m not judging other muslim sisters who don’t wear hijab. All sisters are respectful in my eyes no matter what they wear. The things I wrote was my thoughts and feelings.  Allah doesn’t give anyone authority to judge other people on these basis. So there must be some sisters who doesn’t wear hijab and they must be better than me.

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Story of my failure, My driving test journey

Back in 2013, when I was so stupid that I thought to step into this learning to drive. I was over the moon when i passed my theory test first time. Then I started putting my money in driving lessons. Must have made good business for instructors.  Really man! I never counted but must have spent more than 2 grand. I was so naive to believe that I’m going to pass on my first attempt. So confident I was. There you go … to the test centre first time… brake from examiner. Straight.  FAIL!!!!!!!

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Second time .. didn’t observe the car emerging from the junction .. FAIL!!!!!!

Third time .. reverse round the corner. Nerves .. couldn’t fix it .. touched the kerb . FAIL……

Fourth time .. I don’t even remember .. effing FAIL !

Fifth time .. sixth time .. I forgot . FAIL FAIL FAIL. … … AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH

Seventh time I was heavily pregnant  and the test centre didn’t have toilets. It was my best test. But I FAILED.. I really cried that day. It was so bad.

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Today was my 8th attempt. Guess what ???

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FAIL FAIL FAIL FAIL FAIL +%×%÷€×€€×^#;#&@;

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I WANT TO GIVE UP NOW…

BUT

I will not give up. Will try next time.  But honestly, seriously I’m hopeless. This is so embarrassing. I feel like I’m not made to drive on roads. On top of everything, I left work. Now my husband has to pay for further.

I’m the one who always makes mistakes. Still have a long way to go.

I don’t like failures! 😓

 

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Do you earn to waste ?

Wasting your privileges is like flushing money in toilet

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Nobody in the world is ready to give all the money they have to the ones who really need it. But they are happily ready to spend it in the things they actually don’t need.  Do you want to know how ? Let’s see..

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Imagine a week without food?

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Chinese take away mummy it’s weekend..

Uhh! I don’t feel like eating anymore..

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This is their meal for the whole day..

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Leaving the tap open while brushing teeth?

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Someone is not even able to get clean drinking water

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Those who know it’s worth

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Water and food, two necessities of life that we often overlooked and don’t even take for granted .

Living in countries like UK and US, the most common thing you observe is too much wastage. No I’m not promoting any campaign. In my own house there’s a lot of food that has been wasted and that is the reason that made me write this blog. I live in a sharing house where not everything is in my hands. I can’t stop people or interfere in their life. But they always complain about money. When they see their bills, they are like,

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I am really hurt to see how people themselves don’t realize of what’s going wrong where. I don’t agree of saving money and don’t spend on your basic needs or just keep it in your accounts till the end of your life. I just want to tell people. Do spend your money on something good. Better giving charity then wasting.

Saving money

Well no.. If you see buy one get one free on your nearest supermarket and you think you are saving money then you are wrong.

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Sometimes you get 2 when you just even want one.  Just for the sake of taking advantage of offer the item goes directly in the bin after a week.

Screenshot_2016-03-29-21-58-35-1Screenshot_2016-03-29-22-21-23-1I want to tell all the people and specially all the mothers that one penny makes a pound or breaks it. If you safe for now it will benefit you or your children later in life. There are so many ways to save money.

If you are pregnant and about to give birth consider breastfeeding . Formula milk is very expensive. Screenshot_2016-03-29-22-26-46-1

Shocking isn’t it ?

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Put the dishwashing liquid on the scourer not directly on pots or pans. It’s really annoying. You don’t know how much you waste buying those bottles every week and how much you can save using one for many days.

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Seriously, almost everyone is in debt because of the blessing of credit cards and interests. Get out of it as soon as you can and see the difference. You will feel much more light and happy.

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I’m so thankful to God for what I have. I’m also thankful to him for the things I don’t have. Because whenever I will get that in my life it will be much more worth in it. I want my daughter to be greatful and appreciate of what I give her. Money is not everything in life but we earn to live. There are so many people who are deprived of basic things. Look after them.

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We don’t need negative vibes…

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Anger, bad behaviour, hatred, jealousy, frustration, arguments,  envy, insult, guilt, regret, betrayal, humiliation, disappointment, sadness, pain ….

Sounds very familiar huh ???

No matter how much you try to force it out of your life, it returns uninvited with its ugly face. Ruining lives, soul, personalities and relationships. No matter where you go you get good or bad. The art is to deal with it. Nurture good in your life and taking negativity out.

So many times, when I get angry my brain stops functioning. I feel like burning inside. Like a fire flaming up in my brain. I feel like screaming and yelling. I try my best to avoid situations by keeping my mouth shut and it’s difficult as anything. Negative vibes affect my whole personality. I stop thinking logically. I see negative, think negative and when I open my mouth I regret later.

How many of us see other people and envy them like … wow! He or she is so lucky. He’s got a great life. He has big car. Oh! He is loaded by money. She is so beautiful . Her husband got her diamond necklace. They go holiday every year. They got their own house. Why cant i have this? Why am I deprived? Where, their lives are as complicated beyond your imagination. Everyone is burning in their own fire and everyone have some kind of problem. Things you take for granted in your life may be a treasure for someone else. No matter what God gives you. You look at those things that other people have.

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Be a fountain, not a drain

Well I’m not an expert. Neither, I always follow them. But if I consider doing it all the time. My life will be much more simple and I will be much more happy. As I am thinking logical and positive right now . There are few tips that can take all the negative vibes away if we consider them.

  • Look and admire the things (ALLAH) God has given you. Show your gratitude towards God and his people. Be greatful of what you have.
  • If you want to be greatful. Look at those who are deprived of basic needs in life. You will see yourself no better than anything.
  • Build your spirituality and connection with Allah. The more you are closer to God, the less you worry about world.
  • Respect people. Believe in karma. You get what you do. Treat people like you want to be treated.
  • Try to forget those incidents  or events that only give you pain. It’s possible.
  • Forgive those who hurt you and forgive them for the sake of Allah.
  • When you don’t like certain type of behaviour, the best thing to do is to stay quiet. I’m talking about relationships. Sometimes silence convey all the meanings.
  • Love everyone. Keep your heart full of love. When you get angry think about someone you love most.
  • Ignore ignorant people. Look away or move. Get your presence out of there.
  • Stop hanging out with negative people. The only thing you catch from them is bad
  • Smile everytime you look at someone.
  • Always share and give people. Your heart will find satisfaction when someone benefit from it.
  • Look at good qualities of people nobody is perfect not even you. God has created us like that.
  • Distract yourself or keep it busy when something bothering you. Clean the fridge or your wardrobe and think like you are organizing your life.
  • Go out and give yourself some space.
  • Do something you love most when you are angry or upset. Eat or drink or cook.
  • It’s not necessary that you are always right. I can be wrong, so can anyone else. If you done something wrong or hurt anyone with your action or speech. Ask forgiveness.
  • When you do something nice. To your husband or mum or friend. Don’t expect anything in return. Those people are the happiest who expect less.
  • Watch your reaction. Become like a wall. If a ball hits it. The wall bounce it back. The ball can’t break the wall.  As many times you hit the ball it comes back to you.

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