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My princess is 1 year old (update)

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Goodbye to all the worries and  problems that I had with my newborn. Now I have an active, pretty little toddler having fun all around.

It’s amazing when she kisses me and we cuddle to sleep together. I can’t imagine my life without her.

Time flies and I never thought that my girl will grow so fast. In this post, I will try to fit in everything that every mum expects to hear from other mum and whatever I think I have achieved so far.

Breastfeeding

We are still doing breastfeeding and to my surprise . That is the most favourite part of her day when she comes to me to feed. Now she demand by pulling my top. Her feeding has dropped to 2 feeds a day and one before bed. She still feed during night and now I have stopped counting how many times. Sometimes I get lucky she just wake  up 2 times. But as long its comforting her I don’t mind.

Food

We are still trying new food with variety. She is having 3 meals a day including 2 3 snacks a day. She drinks a lot of water during day. Sometime she eats what we eat and sometimes I cook her own food. Breakfast she have one egg Boiled,  porridge or weetabix and quarter fruit.  At lunch she sometimes have pasta sometimes rice. Dinner time I divide her meal in vegetable protein and grains. Like bread and chicken with vegetable.  When out and about I grab a pouch of puree, sandwich and some cucumber slices or cheese slices. Comment below if you like to know the ideas. It’s really exciting trying different thing. I feel like a pro now .😆

Her weight and size of her clothes and shoes

She has never been on the bigger side.  She was born on 25th centile and dropped to 9th centile in last few months. But she has really been active and doing a lot. Health visitor told me that she is perfectly doing well.

Her weight is 17lb and she is wearing 9 to 12 months now a days. She has got really long legs. Sometimes she fit in 6 to 9 months dresses. She still wear 3 to 6 months bodysuits and vests. As they pull and still fit her well.

Her shoe size changes every other month. But recently it’s been 3g in clarks shoes.  I bought a bigger size that’s 4 and she is comfortable in it. Where 3g is very tight. So I’m going to get her measured on my next visit.

Words she says

She talks a lot. She has  been saying mama dada baba after her six months but now she made her self clear by pointing out on objects.

  • Mama (mum)
  • AMMA (mum)
  • Baba (dad)
  • Dada (grandad)
  • Tata (bye)
  • I lo you (i love u)
  • Hello
  • Allah (God)
  • Daddy
  • Chacha (uncle)
  • Bhai ( brother)
  • Aaja (come)
  • No no
  • Wow
  • Mooooo (cow sound)
  • Aaaaahhhh (tiger sound)
  • Aapa (elder sister)
  • Daabu (older uncle)
  • This

Sometimes she just goes and say a word and doesn’t repeat it again.  So these were the words she said everyday.

Milestone achieved

  • Crawl; she has been crawling since the end of her 8 months .
  • Climbing; she has been climbing stairs since she was 10 months.
  • Stand with support; she stand for quite long with a support.  On sofa or chair.
  • Walking; she hasn’t been walking yet independently. But she walks holding a Walker.
  • Pointing objects; she always point on object when she needs to ask about it. When she want something to eat she points at it.
  • Feeding herself; she feeds herself with hands and sometime with spoon. She drinks her water by holding her bottle herself.
  • Teeths; not a single tooth yet. One of those babies. Late teething.
  • Recognise animals; she recognise animals by makimg the same sound as they make when asked about it.
  • Waving and clapping ; she has been waving and clapping since 7 months .
  • Moving with the rhythm of nursery rhymes.

Poo trained

As it has been really controversial on a babygroup. About my practices being judged in their own perspectives. I proudly say my girl is completely poo trained. She only goes poo in toilet. And she tells by making a face. She still wear nappy all day for wee because I’m waiting  for her to walk independently before I start potty training.

Activities I do with her

  • Playing with Building blocks and stacking cups.
  • Reading books every night before sleep. She love reading books. Specially the ones that have animal pictures in it.
  • Hide and seek under blanket and behind the table.
  • Flash cards (only few words with pictures 5 or 6 a week)
  • Role play ( I become an animal and make the sound and chase her and she runs off laughing )
  • Cleaning ( when I’m cleaning I give her clean cloth and she follows me everywhere and clean everything with her small hands)
  • Giving rides on my back ( I became a horse and hold her on my back)
  • Singing ( all the nursery rhymes and nasheed)
  • Massage
  • Pray ( when I’m praying she repeats the same )

Toys

She has a lot of toys but there are some that she really seem to enjoy playing. She loves her vtech walker. She plays long long time with it and she now walks holding it.  She has one musical smartphone that one is her favourite too. Other toys she occasionally play with are; building blocks, classical fisher price  pull along telephone, rattles, pull along dog, sorting shapes and doll etc.

Social skills

Alhumdulillah ! She is very active and can play with everyone. She have a huge circle of friends in family and acquaintances. She loves to play and share her toys with other kids. She gets very interested of what other kids is doing and join with them. She gives hugs and kissed to her cousins.

Sleep

I’m still working on it. As she is still breastfeeding, she wakes up couple of times just to feed. We had to leave our house for 2 months as we had a renovation. And that spoilt her habits . At my mums i used to Co sleep with her due to lack of space. Now when I’m back I bought a new cot for her. She still stands up in the middle of night and cry to come to me. I take her out give her cuddle and put her to sleep.  And when she is asleep I put her back. There are few days when I’m exhausted and don’t bother to put her back in cot.  But I’m determined to make her happy in her cot.

Last but not the least. Every baby and every person is different . So we should not be judging ourselves or others of what they are doing or if their practices are right or wrong. Different things works for different people.  So you should follow that works best for you. The purpose of this post is to update everyone and writing a memory for myself. If in the coming years I forget what I did with Z ..

Stay happy and enjoy life . Let me know if my post was helpful and if you want to ask anything comment below.

 

 

 

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How I understand my baby’s cues for potty at 8 months

I can’t be more than happy today. I was ignoring the signs and cues my baby girl was giving me for so long. Today she nailed it. To my utter surprise I do not have to do anything other than putting her on her seat in the toilet. Then she just did something beyond her age.

Yes my nearly 8 months old baby pooped in the toilet.

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Let’s have short look in details now.  My girl doesn’t poo everyday.  So I’m always worried about her and really wait for her to go. Because when she’s constipated she gets very fussy. So I keep giving her food with fibres and fruits to keep her digestive system working good.

After she started her weaning the texture of her poop changed. It became harder. So everytime she strains and goes red I knew she was going to poo. Whenever I open her nappy to my surprise there was little or no poo in the nappy. And as soon as I open the nappy she start eliminating poo. Seriously,  she poops when I open her nappy.  I been doing this for a month now.  So I already had a potty that I brought for her where she peed earlier. I shared that experience as well in this post.

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Been ignoring those signs and cues thinking this might be really early for her to potty in the toilet. I was happy for her just doing pee once a day. But again and again I see her in pain in strain and she was not doing it made me pick her and rush to the toilet. And within seconds she relieved herself. She was smiling and I was just saying.  ‘Good girl my girl just done poo poo’.

I never thought about proper potty training. I’m still not going to push her towards potty training until she starts walking . I will just catch the signs and then take her very slowly.

No more pain as gravity works better than nappy. No more rashes as she will be cleaned immediately.  And no more smelly poop. All we get is happy baby and happy mummy.

I encourage those mums who believe in picking the signs of elimination communication to go for it. Why not try it. If your baby is happy with it then it’s something that will help him later. If not then you can try later when your baby is ready.

 

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My 7 month old baby wee in toilet today – I’m so happy

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I never knew that my girl will give such a quick response at this age. I was shopping in tesco and I saw a potty seat, the one that goes over the toilet. I just bought it like this will help in future.

So she was giving me signs that I was ignoring.  Like whenever I used to change her nappy at night she wees right after I take it off. Most of the times the wee goes right on my bed. Sorry I no longer use any changing mat now. I was like why didn’t you do it in nappy. And there I thought wait ! Let’s try potty. May be let’s try my luck.

The next day I put the potty right at the same time before bed and I sat her on it.  I made the sound sssssssss. Nothing happened. Then I put little water over her wee wee spot.. After 5 minutes she did and she was like .

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I was very very happy. I praised her so much after that. And she was giggling and babbling. I’m so proud of her now.  I’m not going to push her to do poo at this stage now and going to put her on potty just once at night for few weeks. So she just get used to it.

So that is our first step towards growing up. Let me know if anyone of you have any nice tips for later. I will keep it updated with potty training.

 

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Growth spurt and sleep regression

 

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I am a first time mum of a baby girl, who’s 6 months. Those early days of newborn are gone and we started getting hang over everything. Things went so smooth that I decided to write a blog about my motherhood and my baby. My baby weaned well, have a routine of morning and daytime naps, sleeping 7 hours straight at night. Felt like I achieved what I wanted and going up one more level. And now boom.  Sudden change in sleep pattern and naps. Now I feel like a mombie.

When to expect growth spurt

Well motherhood is unpredictable and the joys of accomplishment didn’t last long. You must heard about ‘ growth spurt ‘. 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 9 months and so on. I think she is having one.

All babies are different and their growth spurts are different as well. These are just estimate age where people observed their babies growing.  In fact, babies grow over night. Their growth spurt last for 3 days or a week.

She decided to teach me a lesson now. So on this stage this madam doesn’t like to sleep during day at all. Before I was just put her and she usually sleep for an hour two times a day on her own. Now she need feeding and rocking and patting and even after all that she wakes up after 15 minutes. On top of that she wants me to hold her all the time. All

Night time is the worst. After giving me those wonderful sleeps she started waking up every other hour . And now she doesn’t want to go back in her cot after feed. Yes. We are breastfeeding but we are not Co sleeping.

Other mums at baby group was having discussion about baby routines.  When I told them about my girl they were just amazed of how I done it. I became so confident. But now I am thinking what I’m doing wrong. Where I went wrong. Am I being overconfident.

My health visitor explained about growth spurt. What to look for? What to do? What are her needs right now? How to cope when baby is having a growth spurt.

Signs that your baby going through growth spurt

1. Feeding or eating more than usual

2. Sleeping regression  or hibernation.

3. When their clothes go smaller.

4. When they are fussier and need more comfort and cuddles.

5. There will be sudden increase in their weight and height.

Do’s and don’t

1. Do feed your baby whenever she wants. But don’t overfeed them when they start leaving or pushing out then stop.

2. Don’t link everything to growth spurt. It doesn’t accompany fever or rashes or any other illness. Always consult your pediatrician when you observe anything of concern.

3. Babies don’t understand their emotions and body changes and they get fussier. Feed them change them and check if their tummies are ok. Give them lots of cuddles and make them feel secure.

4. Do not wake your child up to feed. Unless your breasts are full and you have no option. Let them sleep. The more they sleep they grow.

5. Be there for your baby. Housework can be done once they are sleeping.

6. If they don’t let you sleep at night and keep waking up for feed, just feed them and keep patience. These days will pass soon.

Finally, I want to give support to all of you and tell you this is just a phase. I know it feels rrally frustrating sometimes and feels like you are stuck in this endless cycle but trust me when you look at your baby growing, you will forget about everything. One more thing that I was doing wrong.  I got too stuck up on making routine and staying on it. It’s not bad to follow your routine but if baby slips off then just allow it and stop blaming yourself.  Enjoy every stage.

Have a nice growth spurt.

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Sleep training success

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Babies are not meant to act like clock work. Neither, they can follow a book. Every baby is different and the way they develop day by day also tend to be different. Some babies are good sleeper naturally but few of them give hard time to their parents. The only thing a parent can do is to establish a routine as soon  as they can.

At the beginning, when baby is born we can’t follow any routine. That time the only important thing is to be there for her and give her what she needs. They sleep a lot in their early days. But they don’t have any pattern of sleep. They sleep any time and they get up anytime.

When can you start establishing routine

When baby reaches their 6 weeks they will go through growth spurt as well. At that time a mother should try to look for the cues and start putting them to sleep on particular times. If they don’t sleep don’t get frustrated. Just try to follow similar routine everyday before their night sleep and daytime naps. Put them to sleep during daytime naps and night time on the similar times. Babies will eventually learn to follow the timing by watching their surroundings. Keep the lights as dim as you can and keep it quiet at night so they know it’s night and they should sleep quietly. When putting them to sleep during day do not try to keep it as quiet. You don’t have to tip toe as you won’t be able to do anything if you worry about them to sleep long. They need to learn the difference during day and night. When they grow older their daytime naps will go shorter.

When my girl reached her six weeks, I started following routine before her night sleep of bathing, massaging, changing of pyjamas, low lights and feed. She was and still breastfeeding and she usually dozed off after her feed.  Initially it was a struggle because the time I wanted her to sleep was not the time for her feed. So she didn’t know how to put herself to sleep at that stage. Then after a week, she started waking up just after 20 minutes of her sleep. Like I used to start her routine at 9pm and by the time I feed her she used to go to sleep by 10. And then she wake up a lot at 12 then 2 then 5. Because she was exclusively breastfeeding. So you have to be lenient but consistent at that stage. 

By the time she reached her 3 months everything went out of the window. I was searching and reading a lot about what I was doing wrong. But couldn’t find anything.

When she was 4 months, I found out about sleep training.  There were two methods.

  1. Cry it out
  2. No tears (pick up put down)

I read and read and read. There was not a single thing I liked about cry it out. The first method ‘cry it out’ is that you leave your kid in her cot or moses basket after nappy change and feed. And leave the room. The baby will cry but you can’t come until 5 minutes. After 5 minutes you come in room and check if they are ok. If they still cry you let them cry. And next time you come after 10 minutes. Baby will cry and then learn to sleep . Which  doesn’t make any sense to me.  May be it work for few people but I just can’t see my baby crying and coughing. So I just ignored the idea of cry it out.

Then I read about no tears. I completely swear by it.

Pick up put down

Well this worked for me wonders. I’m going to tell you about it in detail. But just keep that in mind. You have to be consistent and do not compromise at the beginning. No matter you have a night out with your husband or anything in the world. It’s better to have good night tine with hubby everyday rather than once a week. If you want you baby to learn the skill for the rest of their life and some peace for your sleeps, be there for them and start.

What you got to do is after their night time routine. Do not let them sleep after their feed. Well I’m not saying always but just when you are starting your sleep training. If they sleep just try to rub their ear or cheeks or open one leg of the babygrow . Consider that you don’t need to fully wake them up. You need to put them down in their basket when they are sleepy not asleep.

After few seconds they are going to start crying. Don’t let them cry . Pick them up and calm them down. When they stop crying you need to put them down. They will start crying again. Pick them up again and continue doing it till they go to sleep.

First attempts could be failure but for me she learned to sleep on third day. It was so amazing. I stopped all that rocking and moving. And my daughter was sleeping on her own. On the fourth day, I didn’t even need to pick her up. I just patted her on her chest.

She is 6 months now and most of the time she sleep straight after breastfeed. I don’t wake her up if she is in deep sleep. But if she don’t sleep during feed, I use the same method. Now she sleep through the night 10pm to 8am and have 3 regular daytime naps.

The good thing about this method is that you can use the same technique during daytime naps.  But I must say determination, patience and consistency is the key.