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How I feel being 7 months pregnant

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So this is how I have been feeling lately. And I really hate the fact that the people around you doesn’t seem to be bothered. To my surprise, those women who experienced the exact same situation says, ” oh! Pregnancy… I used to do this I used to be really active.” I mean hello !!!! What do you mean to say all this rubbish in front of a woman who can barely walk or stand due to pregnancy pelvic girdle pain.

I am not mean. In fact,  I’m very generous and kind to the people. But these days I just hate unwanted guests. Why ….. WhY do I have to get up and sit down in front of them after running around my toddler all day long. Then I have to ask for tea and food.. Not for just one day … its bloody every other day. I’m exhausted man !!! Out of breath.

Don’t ask about sleep. The moment I’m in deep sleep my toddler wakes me up. Then I have to go wee. Then I feel thirsty.  Then I can’t turn to other side and stuck. Then I have a leg cramp.  Then my baby decide to get in some weird kind of position that hurt like hell.

Husband ..  feels like I should go somewhere and bang my head to the wall… He is acting like an ar*e. Excuse me ! You are suppose to ask me if I need anything or if I’m feeling alright. Instead of watching stupid scary movies and playing stupid games on you phone. It’s your kid as well . Why is it just me waddling around ??

And the aunty who says.. dear I hope Allah will definitely give you a son this time. Thank you so much !! First of all you are a woman. So be proud of yourself. My first daughter means the world to me. I am ready to have anything  and im not bothered about gender. My kids will be my kids whether they all are girls or boys. For your kind information. I have not found out the gender this time as well.

Rant over !!!!

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Anxious second time expecting mum

screenshot_2017-01-12-22-34-00-1I always mention in most of my posts. Time flies. I still remember the day when z was born. Now she is 15 months walking and talking. Getting independent day by day. Doesn’t know that after 6 months her new baby sibling will join too.

Today I had my first scan. And the feelings I had this time is same as I had with Z. It’s so strange of how much love I have in my heart for my second one already. It’s unbelievable. I used to think it must be hard for mums to love all the kids likewise. Now I experienced how true it is that God put so much love in your heart when you become a mum.

With all this love and excitement, I have some concerns as well.

How I am gonna give attention to both??

How they both gonna sleep? (Sharing house with parents. Both kids gonna sleep in one room)

What If my toddler feel jealous or think I am a bad mum?

How much laundry I will be doing?

Will I become a boogie woman? Who stink of dribble and vomits..

How on earth women with kids get time to do all the make up with fake lashes on as well?

Would I be able to sleep?

Am I being overly conscious?

I’m not very good at handling too many things together and I looked after my first one the perfect way. The time she sleeps is the time no body is allowed to make noise. Her nap time and meal times are fixed. She has proper routine. How do second time mums make routine in circumstances like mine. When u have to share room with both of your kids.

I hope my worries will go in few months or these are just my hormones that making me anxious.

Please leave your feedback and let me know if someone is in the same boat.

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Expecting baby # 2

I still remember the day I was sitting with my husband and I said .. would I be able to become a mother once. He replied, “whatever Allah wills” and he said there is always a time for something to happen. We are no one to decide and plan it. What we can only do is pray and believe in our prayers.

That was the time when I was battling with my pcos. I had several cysts in my ovaries and hormonal cycles were totally out of chart. Every month I used to get late periods . And I always imagined may be it’s time I’m pregnant.  May be I missed my periods because I conceived. It was so disappointing when those tests came back negative. My body weight was increasing. I had scans and checks . Everything that I could do.

I finally conceived naturally in January 2015 and blessed with a baby girl in September. I was over the moon when I found I was pregnant. I took nearly 12 tests and it was so hard to believe.  Now, my little girl is 14 months old and I’m expecting again. I didn’t even know till last week. It was a shock. I thought it took me 3 years to conceive my first. I won’t be able to conceive that soon. But Allah is the best of planners. He gave me this blessing without me even trying or asking. I feel truly blessed.

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My princess is 1 year old (update)

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Goodbye to all the worries and  problems that I had with my newborn. Now I have an active, pretty little toddler having fun all around.

It’s amazing when she kisses me and we cuddle to sleep together. I can’t imagine my life without her.

Time flies and I never thought that my girl will grow so fast. In this post, I will try to fit in everything that every mum expects to hear from other mum and whatever I think I have achieved so far.

Breastfeeding

We are still doing breastfeeding and to my surprise . That is the most favourite part of her day when she comes to me to feed. Now she demand by pulling my top. Her feeding has dropped to 2 feeds a day and one before bed. She still feed during night and now I have stopped counting how many times. Sometimes I get lucky she just wake  up 2 times. But as long its comforting her I don’t mind.

Food

We are still trying new food with variety. She is having 3 meals a day including 2 3 snacks a day. She drinks a lot of water during day. Sometime she eats what we eat and sometimes I cook her own food. Breakfast she have one egg Boiled,  porridge or weetabix and quarter fruit.  At lunch she sometimes have pasta sometimes rice. Dinner time I divide her meal in vegetable protein and grains. Like bread and chicken with vegetable.  When out and about I grab a pouch of puree, sandwich and some cucumber slices or cheese slices. Comment below if you like to know the ideas. It’s really exciting trying different thing. I feel like a pro now .😆

Her weight and size of her clothes and shoes

She has never been on the bigger side.  She was born on 25th centile and dropped to 9th centile in last few months. But she has really been active and doing a lot. Health visitor told me that she is perfectly doing well.

Her weight is 17lb and she is wearing 9 to 12 months now a days. She has got really long legs. Sometimes she fit in 6 to 9 months dresses. She still wear 3 to 6 months bodysuits and vests. As they pull and still fit her well.

Her shoe size changes every other month. But recently it’s been 3g in clarks shoes.  I bought a bigger size that’s 4 and she is comfortable in it. Where 3g is very tight. So I’m going to get her measured on my next visit.

Words she says

She talks a lot. She has  been saying mama dada baba after her six months but now she made her self clear by pointing out on objects.

  • Mama (mum)
  • AMMA (mum)
  • Baba (dad)
  • Dada (grandad)
  • Tata (bye)
  • I lo you (i love u)
  • Hello
  • Allah (God)
  • Daddy
  • Chacha (uncle)
  • Bhai ( brother)
  • Aaja (come)
  • No no
  • Wow
  • Mooooo (cow sound)
  • Aaaaahhhh (tiger sound)
  • Aapa (elder sister)
  • Daabu (older uncle)
  • This

Sometimes she just goes and say a word and doesn’t repeat it again.  So these were the words she said everyday.

Milestone achieved

  • Crawl; she has been crawling since the end of her 8 months .
  • Climbing; she has been climbing stairs since she was 10 months.
  • Stand with support; she stand for quite long with a support.  On sofa or chair.
  • Walking; she hasn’t been walking yet independently. But she walks holding a Walker.
  • Pointing objects; she always point on object when she needs to ask about it. When she want something to eat she points at it.
  • Feeding herself; she feeds herself with hands and sometime with spoon. She drinks her water by holding her bottle herself.
  • Teeths; not a single tooth yet. One of those babies. Late teething.
  • Recognise animals; she recognise animals by makimg the same sound as they make when asked about it.
  • Waving and clapping ; she has been waving and clapping since 7 months .
  • Moving with the rhythm of nursery rhymes.

Poo trained

As it has been really controversial on a babygroup. About my practices being judged in their own perspectives. I proudly say my girl is completely poo trained. She only goes poo in toilet. And she tells by making a face. She still wear nappy all day for wee because I’m waiting  for her to walk independently before I start potty training.

Activities I do with her

  • Playing with Building blocks and stacking cups.
  • Reading books every night before sleep. She love reading books. Specially the ones that have animal pictures in it.
  • Hide and seek under blanket and behind the table.
  • Flash cards (only few words with pictures 5 or 6 a week)
  • Role play ( I become an animal and make the sound and chase her and she runs off laughing )
  • Cleaning ( when I’m cleaning I give her clean cloth and she follows me everywhere and clean everything with her small hands)
  • Giving rides on my back ( I became a horse and hold her on my back)
  • Singing ( all the nursery rhymes and nasheed)
  • Massage
  • Pray ( when I’m praying she repeats the same )

Toys

She has a lot of toys but there are some that she really seem to enjoy playing. She loves her vtech walker. She plays long long time with it and she now walks holding it.  She has one musical smartphone that one is her favourite too. Other toys she occasionally play with are; building blocks, classical fisher price  pull along telephone, rattles, pull along dog, sorting shapes and doll etc.

Social skills

Alhumdulillah ! She is very active and can play with everyone. She have a huge circle of friends in family and acquaintances. She loves to play and share her toys with other kids. She gets very interested of what other kids is doing and join with them. She gives hugs and kissed to her cousins.

Sleep

I’m still working on it. As she is still breastfeeding, she wakes up couple of times just to feed. We had to leave our house for 2 months as we had a renovation. And that spoilt her habits . At my mums i used to Co sleep with her due to lack of space. Now when I’m back I bought a new cot for her. She still stands up in the middle of night and cry to come to me. I take her out give her cuddle and put her to sleep.  And when she is asleep I put her back. There are few days when I’m exhausted and don’t bother to put her back in cot.  But I’m determined to make her happy in her cot.

Last but not the least. Every baby and every person is different . So we should not be judging ourselves or others of what they are doing or if their practices are right or wrong. Different things works for different people.  So you should follow that works best for you. The purpose of this post is to update everyone and writing a memory for myself. If in the coming years I forget what I did with Z ..

Stay happy and enjoy life . Let me know if my post was helpful and if you want to ask anything comment below.

 

 

 

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Got her Ears done..

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I have been thinking about getting her ear pierce from quite long. Been told by so many people that it’s not the right time. She is too young, you should wait , it will not be her choice and this and that.

Two weeks ago, I took her to Claire’s and got her ears done. To my surprise, it went really good. She cried for like 20 or 30 seconds and the next minute she was laughing and playing. The ear piercer told me that it will take about 3 weeks to heal. But her ear was healed in 3 days. The picture that I put here is the second day of her piercing.

When I was 9 months my mum got my ears done and I never regret that my entire life. I still remember when I had my ears with beautiful studs where other friends used to just see and always been wanting same studs like mine. I don’t remember any kind of pain. And I really really appreciate my mum’s choice to got my ears done that early.

I was given a after care solution which I have to use for 3 weeks and I just dab a cotton in it and slowly pat it on her ear lobe once or twice a day when she is sleeping. I rotate the butterfly lock from behind once or twice a day as well. Ears are healed but I’m still doing it.

The whole ear piercing cost me 40 pounds at Claire’s. The stud she is wearing is 9 carat gold. There are other places where it could be done cheaper. But I was not really keen to go there.

The piercer told me that I can change the stud after 3 months of piercing but I will keep it as they are really cute. And I’m going to buy her 24 carat when she gets bigger. InshAllah.

 

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Me time – the moment I can’t keep my eyes open but still scrolling down.

After a long day, shopping, cooking, feeding, changing, nursing or what not. My little girl gone to sleep. I can’t keep my eyes open and need to change to my pajamas, brush my teeth and drink some water.  But here I am, scrolling down my phone. Being nosy on instagram.

It’s been 10 months now. I have been doing this. Not same thing all the time but this me time is a very special time for my sanity. I don’t want to get up from bed and just want to sleep like the way I am. But what is this telling me to get up and wash my face and brush my teeth and change??

Sometime i think what a great life babies have. They fed, changed, sleep and entertained. When I put my daughter to sleep, she takes good 30 minutes to drift off. If I am offered by this opportunity I will grab it in a second.  Now, I just closed my eyes and went in my dream seeing the stupidest things one can imagine.  Time to get up…

If you are in the same boat tell me what do you do in your “me time”.

 

 

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Catching up with my blog

It’s been really really long that I have not written anything.

I am not a professional blogger and I don’t write to earn. Blogging just gives me a way to express myself  and keep the moments and experience locked in words where I can come and read whenever I want. 

I checked my stats and views from last week and I’m quite suprised to know, with this little content my blog has been viewed regularly. Thanks a lot for all of those who are reading.

My baby girl is 9.5 months now. Growing and learning  very quickly.  Life is so beautiful with her and I can’t keep my eyes off her. I’m truly blessed alhumdulillah.

Our weaning journey is also going pretty good. But she still doesn’t have any teeth yet.  So madam been bit moody sometimes because of her swollen gums.

Life is going like a roller coaster. Sometimes I can’t get hold of it and I think I am missing out on a lot of things. Having baby is a full time job. Sometimes you don’t even get a break.newd some motivation to write again

Hope will get really good stuff to write about in coming days .

Love you all .

 

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What I learned being a first time mum

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  1. To be very alert in sleep.
  2. Putting my little girl first in everything.
  3. The value of routine in life.
  4. Making different types of baby food.
  5. No procrastination.
  6. Clean on the go.
  7. No late night gatherings
  8. Staying in a budget.
  9. Pinning every single blog post about parenting.
  10. 101 ways to entertain my daughter.
  11. Singing nursery rhymes.
  12. Home remedies to cure any illness.
  13. Controlling my anger.
  14. No matter how much I disagree with any other mother’s parenting, I just keep my mouth shut for her respect.
  15. Loving unconditionally.
  16. Understanding the fact that I’m not perfect.
  17. Learning  with every mistake.
  18. To know what my baby needs by her each cry.
  19. Praying for her before I pray for myself.
  20. Laughing and giggling with her even when I am sad.
  21. Getting happy to buy her clothes and shoes before I buy anything for myself.
  22. Learned the fact that Allah loves us more than 70 mothers. I know how much I love her. What would be the level of that love he has for us.
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Relationship goals after baby

Expectations

  1. Caring and helping husband who help changing nappies.
  2. Date night once a week.
  3. Sunday brunch in bed.
  4. Sensual massage.
  5. Babysit when you go out socialising.
  6. Keeping house clean and make less mess.
  7. Always be ready to listen.
  8. Eat together.
  9. Get up and put Z back to sleep when she wakes up at night.
  10. You look amazing sweetheart.

Reality

  1. Saying yuck! To see a dirty nappy and say oh! Throw this away … far away..
  2. Staying out once a week to get me time.
  3. Take Z downstairs please I need to sleep more . It’s Sunday . .
  4.  When was the last time you had shower ?
  5. Hello Z how are you ? I love you… go to your mama ! Come on man take her.
  6. Make sure to put trousers on the floor and leaving toilet dribbling after shower.
  7. What ? What did you say ? Do you really have to moan everytime ??
  8. What did you cook ? Vegetable curry ?!!!! I’m going to eat out today.
  9. I need to go work in the morning.  I’m going  to sleep in other room.
  10. You look amazing sweetheart ! 😆

I am still very happy with him. Just wish few things could change. What are your partners like? Share your thoughts.

 

How I understand my baby’s cues for potty at 8 months

I can’t be more than happy today. I was ignoring the signs and cues my baby girl was giving me for so long. Today she nailed it. To my utter surprise I do not have to do anything other than putting her on her seat in the toilet. Then she just did something beyond her age.

Yes my nearly 8 months old baby pooped in the toilet.

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Let’s have short look in details now.  My girl doesn’t poo everyday.  So I’m always worried about her and really wait for her to go. Because when she’s constipated she gets very fussy. So I keep giving her food with fibres and fruits to keep her digestive system working good.

After she started her weaning the texture of her poop changed. It became harder. So everytime she strains and goes red I knew she was going to poo. Whenever I open her nappy to my surprise there was little or no poo in the nappy. And as soon as I open the nappy she start eliminating poo. Seriously,  she poops when I open her nappy.  I been doing this for a month now.  So I already had a potty that I brought for her where she peed earlier. I shared that experience as well in this post.

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Been ignoring those signs and cues thinking this might be really early for her to potty in the toilet. I was happy for her just doing pee once a day. But again and again I see her in pain in strain and she was not doing it made me pick her and rush to the toilet. And within seconds she relieved herself. She was smiling and I was just saying.  ‘Good girl my girl just done poo poo’.

I never thought about proper potty training. I’m still not going to push her towards potty training until she starts walking . I will just catch the signs and then take her very slowly.

No more pain as gravity works better than nappy. No more rashes as she will be cleaned immediately.  And no more smelly poop. All we get is happy baby and happy mummy.

I encourage those mums who believe in picking the signs of elimination communication to go for it. Why not try it. If your baby is happy with it then it’s something that will help him later. If not then you can try later when your baby is ready.